Remember my first blog post about children’s healthy diet? I know many people would disapprove my opinion, but parents are supposed to follow their own beliefs after all, aren’t we? And here is mine – the healthier, the better. I try hard, and yet can I possibly succeed when others behave as if they are happy to sabotage my efforts? “Hi, sweetie! Here, a lollipop. Your mother will turn a blind eye.” I have been struggling with people’s unwillingness to understand since my son was a baby. It’s difficult to survive out there as the strange species whose kid crunches carrots instead of chips. Relax, I haven’t quit. I am already used to raised eyebrows and sarcastic comments.
This is to all who consider my ideas of “healthy” ridiculous. Dear people (friends and acquaintances among you), please don’t judge me. You buy junk food for your kids and yourselves on a regular basis? And you don’t see anything unusual about it? Or you don’t think about the matter at all, as long as your offspring are kept pacified and you can’t be bothered cooking for dinner? That’s OK. I don’t blame you for anything. I don’t point at you pretending to be a know-it-all. I wish I could make you change the picture. I wish I could make you realise that “healthy eating” is not another trend to laugh at. But I guess, I cannot and I don’t judge you. Because this is your choice, and I’m sure you do your best. So do I.
Perhaps there is a slight difference between you and me. I dare to say ‘no’ to anyone who offers unhealthy stuff to my child, and I mean anyone. When my son was a little baby with four teeth in front, I had to do it almost every day (and how do few teeth handle a sticky jelly in the first place?). I would say “No, thank you. We don’t eat that”. I still do it, although with my kid growing up and getting more curious it already sounds like “Only one, please.” Do you think this is rude? I’m never unkind and I get it, you have good intentions. Well, I’m afraid your good intentions won’t prevent me from saying ‘no’. Besides, isn’t it a little bit unkind to give food to children neglecting what their parents have to say? I always ask even if it’s about a piece of apple (food allergies are so common these days, aren’t they?). Don’t be hurt by my firm ‘no’ answer. My only wish is to protect my precious, and I rely on you being an adult who could comprehend why I do it.
I care about the food my boy eats, that’s it. Please, don’t try to convince me I’m wrong. You are talking to an obstinate creature. Seriously, I’m unyielding and I don’t feel embarrassed about feeding my child this way. Yes, we don’t go to McDonalds at weekends and I can admit it straight out. Instead, I make sandwiches at home and we go to the park, and this is fun, too.
You’ll give it another shot arguing about the quality of food. I am well aware that most of the ‘healthy’ food is not as healthy as it should be. I realise that the fruits and veggies we buy are so likely to be contaminated with bad substances. And who knows what they put in ‘natural’ yoghurt or cheese? But yet, I prefer them rather than something packed that expires in two years. I just can’t accept it – giving anything to a little infant regardless of how poisonous it could be because ‘they will catch up with junk food at school anyway’. So do you suggest I shouldn’t be concerned about my child’s first five years? No, dear parents. I refuse to find comfort in such a persuasion. I don’t believe that food industry has beaten us forever. True, crappy food is everywhere, but I refuse to let it fully dictate my family’s eating habits.
This is because I decide so. Don’t judge me for my choice.
And you, my dearest child, you’ll soon be able to make your own choices. Hopefully, your mummy has managed to teach you a thing or two about food. 🙂