I can’t believe this is coming out of my mouth (in this case, my hand) but yes, 2017 will be the year of NO plans. I am a person who always makes plans, plans for pretty much everything – from the family’s dinners to moving house. Not this time, not this year. While many bloggers seem to be setting goals and writing them down on their blogs (I actually admire them), I am thinking of changing my own mindset.
Living in an everyday chaos and jumble has been a terrifying thing for me even since I can remember. Not having a plan, not organising my time, not getting things done the way they should be – oh, how daunting it all sounds! But I think the insane pedant in me must be silenced. The pursuit of perfection must be ceased. Because perfection doesn’t exist. It’s time for a new approach.
It doesn’t mean I don’t have goals for the new year. Nor does it mean I will slow down and come to a standstill. The striving for self-improvement continues. However, parenting and expat life has taught me that making plans all the time is not a worthwhile effort.
So why am I planning on having no plans in 2017? Because planning could be so stressful and exhausting. Not to mention how disappointed one could be if things mess up. Nay, I don’t want these huge portions of stress and anxiety again. 2017 will the year of more inner comfort and fewer worries. If I achieve some of my goals that would be great. If not, I’ll let it go for now. I will do it anyway. The best is yet to come.
There are 5 more reasons why I’ll try to plan less this year:
1. I am a mother.
If you are a parent and you are reading this you need no further explanations. Parenthood is a constant sequence of plans failed, of romantic (can I also add ‘naïve’?) intentions followed by cruel disillusionments. Yes, the intentions… Last Saturday at 7 am, I intended to have some peaceful time with my cuppa but instead, I had to be a mother again. Obviously, my son had decided that Mum didn’t need that time for herself. The same when I plan to blog and end up playing with Lego.
2. I am a woman.
My initial plan was not to spend an hour applying makeup, but I don’t see why my partner is getting that irritated. The shopping can wait. Being with your beauty products is so therapeutic. Especially when your face looks a little bit prettier in the end. But that’s a women’s business, men can hardly understand. A woman’s world is complicated, isn’t it?
3. I am an expat.
It’s been more than a year since we came to the UK. It’s been exciting and frightful at the same time. Expat life is a journey and being on a journey suggests a lot of twists and turns. My expat life has proved that too much planning is no good and often leads nowhere. You have strict plans and all the time setbacks come up to destroy them.You define deadlines and you fail to meet them. You believe to be well-prepared and you realise you know very little. Expat life is a good teacher. Expat life teaches you to learn before you set any goals.
4. I am a partner.
My boy is not the only one who needs my presence. I am also a partner and there is a man with whom I spend precious moments. And those moments are worth it much more than my urgent chores or to-do lists. The housework, the blog post that was due today, the appointment I was supposed to book – they all can wait. Now, I’ll have a relaxed conversation with my beloved.
5. I am a Gemini.
They say Gemini have a dual personality and you can never know which side of personality you are facing. Well, I don’t agree with everything they say about my zodiac sign but I can’t deny that I’m often indecisive and restless. I am always questioning my own decisions. The permanent oscillation between right and wrong could be annoying, believe me. And you don’t want to go shopping with me – my hesitation with two absolutely identical shirts will freak you out.
So why bother with plans when I have such a dual nature? I’m kidding, of course. I’m not that wavering all the time. But it’s true, Gemini do have trouble sticking to a single plan. Therefore, planning diligently is useless. Period.
And my blogging plans? I have none. Why not make it a full-time job, double my traffic, triple my readership? Hm, I don’t know… We’ll see how it goes. I still have that passion for writing, and I still have those moments when I don’t like my blog. No plans. I’ll keep doing it because I enjoy it.
Planning is important and I love it even though it kills me at times. It puts so much pressure on me, it dictates my life severely and still, I love it. But this year, my plan is to make as few plans as possible. For the better, I hope.
What about your plans for 2017?